Bridesmaid checklist – things to do before the big day

You’ve been given the wonderful job of being a bridesmaid to your lovely friend, but sometimes the pressure of organising events, having outfit fittings and generally being there for your bestie can take it’s toll.  So here is my simple guide to easing some of that stress, meaning you enjoy the run up to the big day along with performing your duties on the actual wedding x

1. Buy/try on your bridesmaid gown, shoes and accessories with plenty of time…

You should try and aim to buy/try on your bridesmaid gown within plenty of time before the wedding.  Not only does this minimise stress of everyone involved – it also allows time for adjustments if needed and if the bride changes her mind on style and colour.  A brilliant place to get gowns from is Maids to Measure

Do not leave it to the big day to stitch loose straps, or mend a broken zip that you knew wouldn’t work – both of which has happened during weddings I have been involved in.  Not only does this look terrible in photographs, it will also mean you are constantly worried about how your gown looks and not feel confident at all.

Be organised on this one!

2. Confirm with the bride your travel/hotel accommodation if required PLUS timings!

If you don’t know what time you need to arrive or be available for the bride, ask.  Check timings – what time do you need to be with her for breakfast, hair, makeup or even changed into your gown.  Which car are you riding in and do you need to stay with her, or book a local hotel.  Take the initiative and confirm what is going on, as the bride will have so many things to think about she may need a little push to sort the little details with you.

3. Decide whether you want hair and or makeup, and tell the bride.

This subject is always a little touchy with brides as they usually always want to pay for bridesmaids to have their hair and makeup done, but financially this is not always possible (weddings are expensive!)  So really think about whether you want your hair and or makeup done, and if so are you willing to help pay for this?  Quite often I am involved in weddings where only one or two bridesmaids are having their hair and makeup done, and it makes the rest of the bridal group really regret their decision as they either don’t have the same products or can’t achieve the same professional finish.

If you do want either or both, then tell the bride in plenty of time and not a couple of days before the wedding.  That way, numbers and timings can be confirmed and any final bills paid in plenty of time.

4.  Don’t bring your hang-ups or personal problems to the bride on her wedding day.

This can sound really harsh but in practise I have seen so many bridesmaids verbally attack brides on their special day for not doing this, or not thinking to organise that.  Meaning that poor bride who has spent an enormous amount of money making it a special day for everyone, now feels like rubbish on her wedding day.  No one wants to see that.

Leave your hang-ups and personal problems at the door and be there for your friend.  It’s one day where you can just enjoy yourself and be with friends and family, so buck up and let your hair down!

5.  Make sure both the bride and yourself have a prosecco in hand for most of the morning x

Bridesmaids!

🌺 A gorgeous bridesmaid design for Rebecca’s girl gang for her Spring wedding at Chewton Glen.  Rebecca wanted her girlies to have soft peach cheeks, a pink lip and delicately shaded eyes – which is a perfect combination to subtly tie everything together.  This design also worked well in matching their soft blue/grey bridesmaids gowns from Maid to Measure x

Bridesmaid makeup designs…

It’s always lovely when I see the whole bridal party having fun in the morning.  Getting their hair styled and makeup applied, and really celebrating together those last few girlie moments before the festivities really kick off!  It brings back all those secret planning chats at the back of the class, discussing what wedding dress you’re going to wear or what flowers you want – even though you’re just 14!  So I always adore coming up with designs for the bridesmaids.

I like to design something similar to their gowns, as I know how much effort it takes to pull a colour scheme together so I want to work with that.  It’s also good to keep the makeup almost identical to each other to get a more unified look, where the eye isn’t constantly distracted by the different combinations of colour in photographs x

Photography Matt Lee Photography

B r i d e s m a i d // L o v e

Oh I do love designing a bridesmaid look for a wedding! This gorgeous gal is part of Sian’s supportive girl gang for her wedding today in Beaulieu – with everyone getting ready at the lovely The Crown Manor House Hotel in Lyndhurst x

Makeup Frances Moore MUA | Hair Bridal Hair Hampshire By Michelle Crosser | Flower The Wild Fox

Bridesmaid Love…

It’s always lovely when I see the whole bridal party having fun in the morning.  Getting their hair styled and makeup applied, and really celebrating together those last few girlie moments before the festivities really kick off!  It brings back all those secret planning chats at the back of the class, discussing what wedding dress you’re going to wear or what flowers you want – even though you’re just 14!  So I always adore coming up with designs for the bridesmaids.

I like to design something similar to their gowns, as I know how much effort it takes to pull a colour scheme together so I want to work with that.  It’s also good to keep the makeup almost identical to each other to get a more unified look, where the eye isn’t constantly distracted by the different combinations of colour in photographs x

Photography Matt Lee Photography

So who is the makeup trial for exactly…

Having a makeup trial is so vitally important for a bride, as it allows you to express yourself through designing your own bespoke bridal look.  It also allows you to get an idea of what the makeup will look like on the wedding day, so that you can piece together what the hairstyle will be like teamed, or perhaps even what the wedding gown will be like sited next to these elements.  I personally treat the trial as a completely open forum where any idea and opinion is welcome, as I would hate to feel that a client couldn’t say anything even if they didn’t like it!

Saying this I would say also that a bridal makeup trial should just be for a bride – it’s your wedding day after all!  I often see brides stressed out or wearing themselves thin because they are trying to organise when this bridesmaid is available, or when that bridesmaid is coming down from wherever they live just for the makeup trial.  Don’t get me wrong it’s nice having your friend there to give a second opinion, or just to be there for support – but really I often feel that it’s just nice for the bride to sit back, relax and have a laid back chat about what they’re after in terms of makeup without worrying about the bridesmaids.  It also saves on the pennies…!!

Amy and her New Forest summer wedding at Burley Manor Barn…

This morning I had the pleasure of doing Amy’s bridal makeup for her wedding in the New Forest, at the newly refurbished Burley Manor Barn.  Amy’s wedding theme today is summer and all the delicate pastel shades that go with it.  She had the most exquisite flowers made for her featuring a mini version of a sunflower, gypsophila and a small peach rose bud to complete the chic look.  Amy wanted her makeup to therefore be kept simple, yet have that wow factor through the eyes – which I think works wonderfully well for her as she has the most amazing large eyes.

For Amy’s bridesmaids I used a pastel mauve through the eyes, and used the same lipstick colour for the whole bridal party to unite them.  Because of the very loose, free nature of the wedding Amy didn’t want her bridesmaids to feel ‘over done’ and just wanted everything relaxed and peaceful – which it definitely was this morning! x

Photography by Big Bouquet Photography

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From the heart…why getting a friend to do your wedding makeup is not always best

Ever since my wedding 5 years ago I’ve been looking forward to seeing my friend get married, and of course I was delighted when she asked me to do the makeup for her bridal party and herself.  Although when she asked me I did advise a little caution, saying that she will feel different towards me than to the suppliers she was paying for, and to make sure she spoke up if she didn’t like what I was designing – as at the end of the day, being a wedding supplier, I knew how to take criticism and take the look in a direction she wanted.  Luckily we came up with a classic bridal look she was happy with, and talked in depth about the bridesmaid looks.  All went well – even when the day before she had a panic about her timings with the hairstylist and myself.

But it got me thinking that if I was just a friend doing the makeup and not an experienced supplier it would have thrown me and I might have even said no, as the change in times meant the difference between a 7:15am wakeup call to a 4:15am wakeup call.  Again something I am used to, but ‘just a friend’ wouldn’t appreciate.

So I could just sit here as a wedding supplier and say professional is best, because of course I am one.  But what you need to ask yourself is underneath the smiles is your friend ready to work under stress, with a time frame and be able to produce a wedding look you can be proud of.

Bridesmaid/flower girl makeup designs…

It’s always lovely when I see the whole bridal party having fun in the morning getting their hair styled and makeup applied, and really celebrating together those last few girlie moments before one of them goes off to be somebodies wife!  It brings back all those secret planning chats at the back of the class, discussing what wedding dress you’re going to wear or what flowers you want – even though you’re just 14!  So I always adore coming up with designs for the bridesmaids & flower girl as there is a sense of freedom to their approach.

I like to design something similar to their gowns, as I know how much effort it takes to pull a colour scheme together so I want to work with that.  It’s also good to keep the makeup almost identical to each other to get a more unified look, where the eye isn’t constantly distracted by the different combinations of colour in photographs.  For flower girls I like to keep it really simply with just a sweep of a sweet pastel colour for the eyes and a tiny amount of blush.

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